This new year, however, having seen some great posts about what other people are hoping to strive for over the coming months, and having the guts to publish them for us all to see and to make them real and therefore, no backing out, has made me want to do the same (eeeeeek!). These fellow bloggers have inspired me to set in stone - well make public on my blog at least ! -some goals which I hope will motivate me and give me a kick up the arse to sort my life out a bit this year.
In no particular order my goals for 2013 are:
Lose two stone
I always start each new year wanting to lose some weight, I expect many of us do especially after the over indulgence that Christmas brings.This time last year I was feeling elated at losing most of my baby weight and was only half a stone away from my pre-Burton weight. However, a year on and I have gained over a stone in weight and therefore, for my own health and for my clothes sake, I HAVE to shed some pounds. I am going for two stone and giving myself all year but ideally I want to shift most of this by the summer.
Be more assertive about meal times and get the boys to try new foods
As with all parents to small children, I have many the frustrating meal times when my little darlings refuse to eat the food I have lovingly made and spent time cooking! I know which meals they will eat, as a rule, unless ill or having a fussy day, but making the same meals gets a little tiresome and I want them to broaden their food repertoire. So I want to make some new dishes for them - at least one new meal a month - and if they at least try one mouthful reward them. If they refuse to try one spoonful, then nothing else will be offered. If they at least try the new food, if they don't like it then as long as they tried it that's fine and an alternative meal can be eaten in its place.
Find a discipline / reward system for the boys which works
Last year I had real problems getting to grips with disciplining the boys. Burton refused to sit on the 'naughty step' and although I tried stickers as rewards and incentives for good behaviour they didn't work for long or when he was good for a while I stopped using them! So I need to get a proper 'system' in place which I want to start using when we move into our new house (end of Jan). Since living here in the holiday let, although he wont do it immediately, Burton will reluctantly sit on a 'naughty' step now even of it happens after threatening to take something he holds dear (eg. new toy, bike, scooter) away! And its important that both OH and I agree on a 'system' for both boys.
Learn to budget
Oh I am rubbish at budgeting. Always have been BUT I must learn how do starting now! When we move to our new house, money will be stretched and limited with me not working and a bigger morgage too, so it will be a challenge but one I HAVE to succeed with.
Make weekly meal planners again
This kind of goes hand in hand with my budgeting goal (see above), but when I made meal plans last year, stuck to them and based my shopping lists on them, I did actually spend less on my grocery shopping. It was also good knowing what I would cook each week.
Work on my relationship
The OH and I have endured lots of up and downs (mostly the latter) in our relationship to date, and I have blogged about things which really bugged me about him in the past. BUT moving to a new home feels like a fresh start and we don't make time for us (which I am sure is common among parents). Little things like holding hands, a little kiss and saying 'I love you' just don't happen very often. I want this to change and I want 2013 to be 'wipe the slate clean' year for our relationship. I think it will be good for us as a couple.
Do some exercise other than walking with the buggy
As with the 'losing weight' resolution this is another which has featured on my yearly to do list for many years. I used to be a regular swimmer and having tried other exercises, this is the one sport I am any good at. I do walk a lot with the boys and the buggy, but at some point this year once I have shifted some weight, I would like to make some time to swim again once or twice a week.
Join a dental surgery
I used to go to one in my old home town but my last appointment was two years ago and I expect I am off the list now! Also the boys need to go for a first visit to get them used to going, and for them to not fear the dentist.
Don't lose or break my (new) iPhone!
Pretty self explanatory
Tell my Mum about my blog
I still haven't shared my blog with my family. I didn't set out no to but I also didn't start this blog with the intention of telling anyone I knew in the real world either. A few times recently I have wanted to tell her but I have no idea how to bring it up and explain it all! Of course she may know already, but hasn't told me because I haven't told her!
Get to bed earlier
Hmmmm so far this year this hasn't happened, but I want to get to bed before midnight!
Take the boys outdoors every day, weather and health permitting, for at least 30 minutes
I do try to get outside with the boys most days, but I could do better. So far this year I have stuck to this and this pleases me, even when it was raining. The new house has a garden so sticking to this goal should be easy to stick too.
Get in front of the camera more
I did blog about this aim last year as part of a Gallery post, and I did appear a bit more in photos with my children, but I need to capture more photographic memories for prosperity of us together.